Autism and the introduction of a baby

Having a child with Autism, you automatically become aware of the world on a much wider spectrum than you ever realized.

Now, my son Logan has yet to be placed on a specific level of the spectrum, but he can speak, although it is not conversational, he is improving every day and can say short sentences, thanks to hard work and a mild Dora the Explorer addiction he has developed…. or rather Nick Jr as a whole. He also goes to school full-time and with a class of four in total, and so gets the help he needs.

We are pretty well prepared for things, we plan ahead and have everything mapped out. He has a communication board with pictograms that he needs to ‘check in’ with and then match the picture on the board with the corresponding image in the house; playtime, eating, school bus, shopping, shower, bed, etc. This he does with no problem, and you can see how much more fluid his day goes with this system in place.

However, pause all of that for a second, and add a newborn baby to the mix… what is the result.

We had no idea what to expect from Logan when we brought Damon home. We expected him to ignore him completely, to just continue in his own way. We understood he would be out of sorts for a few days while he adjusted to the new family situation, however, what we had never truly considered was that he just accepted it all.

He comes to look at his baby brother, he touches him, or rather strokes his head like a pet, and he holds his hand. He has done this twice now in as many days. He says baby when he looks at Damon, and seems to understand that things have been altered, but has not been affected by it. If anything, he seems even more relaxed and at ease. Even his school commented that he was so laid back and happy that they too were surprised with the ease with which Logan has adapted.

To put it in a context that may sound strange to those who do not know anybody with autism, it is a truly fascinating thing. The spectrum is so broad and the people diagnosed so varied. I would love to be able to see what my son sees, to look at the world through his eyes. He is a treasure, all my children are, and helping him through life is going to be a challenge, but it is one I am looking forward to.


12 thoughts on “Autism and the introduction of a baby

  1. As you know, my son has the form of Autism that is called Asperger’s Syndrome. This essentially means that he is higher functioning than a lot of Autistic people, but still has the sensory issues and the need for things to be as predictable as possible.
    I am done having children. I stopped after having four. But I have often wondered how my son would react if we were able to have another baby, or if, God forbid, a relative died and left behind a young child to be raised by us.
    Your post gives hope to those who may want another child, but are afraid to rock the boat for their Autistic child. The children can’t always say what they are feeling (Cameron took a long time to develop any reality conversation), but you can read it in their actions.
    I wish you and your wife well, Alex. Another journey has begun!

    1. Thanks Maxine,

      We are waiting to see where on the spectrum Logan will fall. He is not conversational at the moment, but is learning words and short sentences at an alarming rate, so who knows where he will end up. His progress is good, and his ability to make decisions is there, and as I am sure you are aware, that is a crucial part of the diagnosis. The ability to make a decision between two things or more etc.

  2. I don’t know you personally, Alex; but from the things you’ve written and the reading I have on your personality then I’d say you’re children are in good hands. Great post.

  3. This is a lovely heartfelt post Alex, thanks for sharing something so intimate and special. I have no experience of autism or related conditions, so I feel I am learning a lot from what you say, which is valuable in this ever-demanding and ever-changing world.

    1. Thank you Catherine, I am glad that you enjoy the post. Understand others is something that at times seems oddly lacking in this world, but that being said, on Tuesday, Logan and his class went to the local theme park, and he doesn’t like standing still, so queing up for the rides, even though it was not long, was a challenge for him. When the people listened and understood that there was a reason for his crying, they accepted it and allowed him to move to the front of the queue. It was very nice of them, and proves that there are plenty of decent people left in the world. 🙂

  4. Logan’s world is a mysterious place to most people – but it can be an amazing and wonderful place for those who try to see beyond the obvious. This post made my morning! It was like a hug for everyone. I’m will be sharing it.

    1. Thank you Juliette, Logan is a wonderful little chap and an inspiration. He gets along with things, and gets stuff done. He always has a smile on his face and is happy to see people. Anybody who meets him falls in love with him instantly. Every parent on his bus route wants to keep him haha.

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